Change is inevitable, but some changes feel deeply personal and destabilizing. Mass firings, particularly those happening across U.S. federal agencies, are more than professional setbacks — they disrupt lives. They impact financial security, healthcare access, and a sense of purpose.
One common piece of advice during times like this is “Don’t take it personally.” While it may be true that layoffs are often systemic rather than individual, this advice can feel dismissive. After all, when your livelihood is affected, how can it not be personal?
Perhaps a more helpful approach is to redirect our attention from “Why me?” — a question that often leads to frustration — to “How can I…?” — a question that, while difficult at first, gradually rebuilds a sense of agency and purpose that might feel gone in the moment.
Reframing “Why Me?” Into “How Can I…?”
Asking “Why me?” is a natural response to job loss, but it rarely leads to satisfying answers. Layoff decisions are often made at higher levels, disconnected from individual performance. Focusing on fairness, while understandable, might make the uncertainty feel even heavier, adding weight to an already difficult situation.
Instead, asking ourselves “How can I…?” redirects attention toward thoughtful action. This question acknowledges the loss while also seeking ways to navigate the disruption:
- How can I prioritize my mental and emotional well-being?
- How can I stabilize my finances in the short term?
- How can I access resources for healthcare coverage?
- How can I maintain my professional confidence in the midst of uncertainty?
This process of regaining agency does not dismiss the pain of change but acknowledges that even small actions can begin to reconnect us with our sense of purpose.
Steps to Regain Stability and Clarity
1. Acknowledge the Emotional Toll
Processing the emotional weight of job loss is crucial. Grief, frustration, and even self-doubt are valid responses. Journaling, talking with friends, or seeking professional support can help with emotional resilience.
2. Address Immediate Needs
- Review benefits — Understand severance, unemployment assistance, or COBRA options.
- Reassess finances — Identify short-term budget adjustments to reduce strain.
- Explore career alternatives temporarily — Contract work, freelancing, or part-time opportunities can provide stability while considering long-term options.
3. Seek Support and Networking Opportunities
- Reconnect with your professional network — Former colleagues and mentors can offer leads, advice, and encouragement.
- Engage with community resources — Support groups, career coaching, and online forums can provide practical help and reassurance.
4. Give Yourself Time Before Reassessing Long-Term Goals
The pressure to immediately rethink your career direction can be overwhelming. Instead of rushing into big decisions, focus first on stability. Long-term career reflection can come later, when the initial shock has passed. A more helpful question at this stage might be: How can I keep my options open while navigating this transition?
Moving Through the Uncertainty
Reframing from “Why me?” to “How can I…?” is not about minimizing hardship — it’s about reclaiming agency in difficult moments. Navigating job loss is an ongoing process, often feeling like moving through molasses. Even the smallest steps can foster resilience. By focusing on ways to adapt, rather than what was lost, it becomes possible to move through uncertainty with intention.
For those facing job loss, a helpful question to consider: What is one “How can I…?” question you can ask yourself today?
Francisco J. Guerrero is a Senior Technical Analyst at the Oregon Water Resources Department, an environmental scientist, and a strategic science communicator with over 20 years of experience in water resources, ecohydrology, and environmental policy. He specializes in bridging science with public and policy audiences, making complex topics accessible and actionable. His research explores uncertainty, information theory, and the dynamic interplay between water, land, and climate. As a GovLoop Featured Contributor, Francisco shares insights on innovative approaches to water governance, resilience, and decision-making. Previously, he worked as a science journalist at CNN Español, contributing illustrated articles and participating in the 360-degree coverage of the 2018 Thai cave rescue.
Note: The views and opinions expressed in this article are those of the author and do not reflect the official policy or position of the Oregon Water Resources Department.
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